House Rule 1: Domesticate // Digital Illustration, 16x20, 2019
House Rule 2: Medicate // Digital Illustration, 16x20, 2019
House Rule 3: Don’t Resist // Digital Illustration, 16x20, 2019
“House Rules” explores the “rules” we are expected to follow or conform to in our patriarchal society. Of course, my response is always to break the rules.
“F is for Fuck” (plastic letters + acrylic + digital illustration), 2019
“G is for G Spot” (plastic letters + acrylic + digital illustration), 2019
“D is for Dick” (plastic letters + acrylic + digital illustration), 2019
I had the pleasure of speaking with the women of Ladylinks last week. They are a bold platform dedicated to providing resources to help empower, inspire and educate women around the world. Check out the full article via link below.
“If you’re a single woman in these times or if you’ve ever had to use a dating app, then you are well aware of the cyber-bullying, borderline abuse that can happen on such platforms. Usually women just grow thick skin and power through unsolicited d**k pics or verbal abuse, but Sarey from Sareytales has turned all this online dating hostility in works of art.Read our latest article on the horrors of online dating and how they can become a creative outlet”
“Hot Air 1: Pop Goes the Ego” / mylar balloon + photography + digital illustration / 2019
“Hot Air 2: Deflated” / mylar balloon + photography + digital illustration / 2019
“Hot Air 3: Nice Guy Parade” / mylar balloon + photography + digital illustration / 2019
How many times has a self-proclaimed “nice guy” exposed himself as anything but when he doesn’t get his way? 🙋🏻♀️🙋🏼♀️🙋🏽♀️🙋🏾♀️🙋🏿♀️Scroll to read a handful of messages that exemplify this toxic behavior. It’s interesting how two seemingly opposite mentalities (toxic masculinity and nice guy mentality) often manifest themselves in a united front, especially in the digital dating landscape.
Soft Serve / Polymer Clay + Vanilla Soft Serve & Waffle Cone 2019
As part of Detroit Art Week’s ‘On View Exhibitions’ series, the gallery’s latest exhibition, “Tinder Moments,” dissects romance, intimacy, and modern-day dating via social media and dating apps.
But, it’s not all sweet and cuddly exchanges. Asia Hamilton, gallery owner and curator of the exhibit, collaborated with Sarey Ruden, an artist and designer known as Sareytales, to offer an artistic deep dive into the dating underworld. With use of mixed-media, interactive structures and imagery, the ladies ditch subliminal messaging and turn the travesties of online dating into evocative, thought-provoking visual pieces.
Another year, another Unsolicited Dick Pic initiative. This time, I am using watercolor to bring these specimens to life.
UDP 2.0 .1 from Bryan, October 2018
UDP 2.0.2 from Ivan, August 2019
UDP 2.0.3 from Gary, August 2019
Anachronism 1: Outsmarted (Acrylic x Gold Leaf x Drywall Panel / 24”x24”)
Anachronism 2: Not a Doctor (Acrylic x Silver Leaf x Drywall Panel / 24”x24”)
Anachronism 3: Dinner’s Ready (Acrylic x Silver x Drywall Panel / 24”x24”)
An anachronism is something that is out of harmony with the present...kinda like Jason’s totally obsolete mentally that women shouldn’t act too clever, or at least not more so than a man.
Read full article here.
Erotic Ice Cream 1: Vanilla (2018) / Venus Rising Exhibit, April 2019
Erotic Ice Cream 2: Tongue Tango (2018)
Erotic Ice Cream 3: Hung & Fun (2018) / Seattle Erotic Art Festival, April 2019
Erotic Ice Cream 4: Creme De Femme (2018) / Dirty Show XX, February 2019
Legend 1: Rape Culture is a Myth (2018)
Legend 2: Blame Biology (2018)
Legend 3: Silent Consent (2018)
Legends explores the many beliefs rooted in the patriarchal system of sexual dominance, normalizing sexual violence, social privilege and dehumanizing rhetoric which form the myths and urban legends that eventually evolve into fact for many men (and women). Trigger warning.
“Guys Just Wanna (Have) Cum 2: Nut ‘n Glow”
“Guys Just Wanna (Have) Cum 3: Exsqueeze Me?
Acrylic on canvas + glow in dark accents, 16x20 / 2019
Guys Just Wanna (Have) Cum: Exsqueeze Me?” (Acrylic + Glow-in-the-Dark Accents on Canvas, 16x20).
Another example of “boys will be boys” right? When I initially shared this message via IG story, I received some responses saying his message didn’t merit my “public shaming”, because, obviously, he was just being funny and trying to get my attention. And for a moment, I considered that maybe I was being too harsh, too judgmental, after all, he did ASK me if I would let a guy squeeze one out on me, so, that’s kinda like consent, right? But the more I thought about it, and the more I processed how his question, and proceeding messages, made me feel (uncomfortable, disturbed, grossed out, angry), I knew I wasn’t over-reacting. In fact, perhaps I wasn’t incredulous enough. And that is my point. Women are conditioned to take a joke, laugh it off, or simply just ignore anything or anyone that makes us uneasy. And while that may mitigate the immediate anxiety of the situation, what about the bigger picture? What about the comments, joke and insults that turn into hostile, aggressive and violent actions? What about those who cannot defend themselves? What about the next generation of young men who grow up believing it is acceptable to treat women with such disregard and contempt?
The Sacrifice, 2019
Clay + Acrylic on Drywall (24”x24”)
The sacrifice made to choose to have an abortion, or the sacrifice made to choose not to, either way, the choice should be ours to make. Women have always sacrificed, or have been sacrificed, to help validate men’s quest for power and control. And now we will be denied the right to choose for ourselves (in 5 states and counting), and punished cruelly, along with the physician who performs the abortion.
How did we get here, in this upside-down world where a woman’s body is not her under her own jurisdiction? The newly passed legislation like the Heartbeat Bill and the Human Life Protection Act are not about saving lives. They are about control, specifically, men controlling women and their bodies. How do crotchety old men have the authority to know what is right for a woman’s body? These laws originate from a place of ignorance, fear, and an archaic sense of ownership over women and our bodies. They challenge the constitutionality of abortion at the federal level and directly attack Roe v. Wade. And if you think this doesn’t affect you, it does, and it will. Get informed. Get involved. Volunteer your time to local coalitions, donate if you can. It all matters. Thank you @ann.lew.is (writer, artist, activist) whose thoughtful commentary inspired parts of this caption.
“(A)Hole” / 2’x2’ drywall + clay + acrylic, 2019
Monti started out with a decent enough message. After not receiving a response, however, he showed his true colors. At least he waited a full 14 hours before succumbing to his own sense of entitlement. Swipe to read the convo and see how he manipulates our exchange, ending with the declaration that I must be a dark, empty hole to snub him, The Monti.
Read full article here.
Tear That Butt Up (2017) / Detroit Dirty Show 19
Anesthetized 1: Medicate Me with Givenchy (2018)
Anesthetized 2: Bi-Polar-Eyez (2018)
Anesthetized 3: Pieces of Me (2018)
Using real makeup as my medium, Anesthetized explores how our culture equates emotions and femininity with weakness, a condition that must be numbed/muted/medicated.
This series was displayed at the Visual Art Exhibit in conjunction with Nevertheless in San Francisco, March 2019.
What an incredible experience last week inSan Francisco with the remarkable Cat Call Choir, ka·nei·see \ collective and Allison Bouganim as we honored International Women’s Day in the best possible way: celebrating the strength, grace and tenacity of all women along with the amazing cast and crew of the #Nevertheless performance and accompanying art exhibit 🖤 My heart is full, thank you for blowing me away with your talent and kindness 💕 Until we meet again 🙌🏼 #dontbesodramatic #sareytales #theartofonlinedating #collaboration #feministart #shepersisted #metoo #choir #moderndance #allthefeels @ Z Space
Event details can be found here
Spoils 1: Be Expire (2019)
Spoils 2: Ovum Aerulian (2019)
Spoils 3: Still Life (2019)
This series explores our culture’s perception that a woman’s worth is dictated by their youthfulness. Throwing a man-trum when you don’t get the response you had hoped for (or any response at all, in this case) is just ridiculous. Aging is privilege, not a number to be used to manipulate a person’s boundaries.
Smartass & Sass Subscription Box (March 2019)
Nasty Women Cosmetics (March 2018)
Objet Trouvé 1: Muffin (2019)
Objet Trouvé 2: Turd (2019)
Objet Trouvé 3: Brain (2019)
Objet Trouvé 4: Penis (2019)
This series is called “Objets Trouvés “ aka “Found Object”, an art concept perfected by #duchamp (his most well-known example is the Ready-Made “Fountain”). These objects develop their identity via the content in which they are placed or viewed, therefore assume different interpretations depending on the creator, the consumer, and of course, social and historical context. As an art form, “Found Objects” challenge the viewer to rethink what they consider are vs. not art. Which is always an interesting dynamic. What do you consider art?
April 1, 2020: Save the Date
Let’s rename April Fool’s Day “National Return to Sender Day”
It starts with YOU. Email screen shots of the UDPs you have received (sender and recipient MUST be over 18) to email@example.com
I will mold life-sized replicas of your UDPs and ship back to you. Hang on to them until this time next year, and let’s start the Dick Pic Revolution!
$99 fee for your custom mold + shipping payable via paypal, venmo or square.
Email me for details: Sareytales@gmail.com or DM @sareytales via instagram
In Your Face: The Unsolicited Dick Pic Project
This page is dedicated to all the unsolicited dick pics women (and men) have received. They are unwelcome at best, disturbing and violating at worst. Apparently it is acceptable for men to send UDPs to unwilling recipients on dating apps, snapchat, even mail drop, but when these same pics are displayed in an attempt to show how violating they are to receive, censorship abides. This page is password protected and you must be over 18 to continue viewing.
These sculptures and other art were inspired by real and unsolicited dick pics received on various dating apps, as well as a collection of over 300 submissions from around the world. UDPs are an all too common side-effect of the online-dating ecosystem. But that doesn’t mean they should be normalized or tolerated. Although dick pics may be two-dimensional, they consume emotional space by violating the boundaries of the receiver IRL, while allowing the sender to control and dominate the interaction.
Much as the unwilling recipients of UDPs feel shocked and violated, it is my hope that this project will inspire debate about what consent means in the digital age on online dating and social media, while bringing awareness to this form of sexual cyber-bullying.
#Sareytales #UDPproject #TheArtofOnlineDating
I guess you'll never know if you don't ask, right?
The Path to Authenticity with Tom Gentry (June 2019)
SheDo (April 2019)
Dating Kinda Sucks (March 2019)
Don’t Waste Your Pretty (December 2018)
KRCW Radio Race (Provided anecdotal UDP content to “the A Team”, September 2018)
“Mural of the Mundane 1: If at First”, 2019 // The Creation of Adam reproduction + acrylic overlay
“Mural of the Mundane 2: Death of Venus", 2019 // The Birth of Venus + acrylic overlay // Included in the “Venus Rising” Exhibit at The Tangent Gallery in Detroit, April 26 & 27, 2019)
“Mural of the Mundane 3: Blame the Whore”, 2019 // The Fall of Man + acrylic overlay
If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again? When I initially shared screenshots of the onslaught of messages from Ernesto (Mural 1), I received some negative feedback: “Stop leading him on”, “He’s being sweet, you should reply”, “You are being cruel to exploit his sincere interest in you for personal gain”, and my favorite “He seems like a nice guy, why don’t you just reply, or at the very least, tell him you’re not interested”. 😩 My complete lack of ANY response *should* have indicated I was not interested, but he persisted until finally my account was deleted (thanks Plenty of Fish). How does the burden of ending the (one-sided) conversation land on the person receiving the messages? And how does this play into the idea of consent vs non-consent in real-life interactions.
Interview with Sarey Ruden of Detroit’s Sareytales: The Art of Online Dating
Read full article here.
Check out the podcast episode here.
Honored to be included in the Class of 2017 Detroit Jewish New’s 36 Under 36 making moves in the Metro-Detroit Area.
Read full article here.
De Trop 1: So Dramatic (2018)
De Trop 2: Crazy (2018)
De Trop 3: AFB (2018)
De Trop is a French word meaning “too much, superfluous or excessive”. As it relates to online dating, when a person is called “dramatic” it generally is because the aggressor didn’t get the response they were hoping for (usually in response to a sexual query). Calling someone dramatic is a way to manipulate the conversation, attempting to make the other person question their reactions to something that violated their boundaries. The De Trop series explores these phrases and tactics through the use of over-the-top balloon art.
Revelation 1: Find Yourself First (2019) / Photo taken at Raymore Steel Co. in Detroit + Acrylic + Digital Manipulation
Revelation 2: Toxic Intuition (2019) / Photo taken at Raymore Steel Co. in Detroit + Acrylic + Digital Manipulation
Revelation 3: Words of Wisdom (2019) / Photo taken at the Russell Industrial Center in Detroit + Acrylic + Digital Manipulation
Revelation (n.) disclosure, epiphany, proclamation. To reveal instead of to conceal, hide or otherwise diminish. This was a particularly cathartic series for me. While the messages that I received inspired the art, the art also inspired me. Be true to yourself, and all will be revealed
Allegedly 1: Patriotic Penis (2018)
Allegedly 2: Shhh (2018)
Allegedly 3: Unmasked (2018)
"This is what they think of us. Let's show them what we think of them". Powerful words from @womensmarch inspired my #AllegedlySeries which will continue to expose the sexual violence endemic our country is and always has been suffering from. No more silence. Be heard .
Survival of the Feminist (2018) / Gallery at Nevertheless in San Francisco March 2019
Thanks so much for this lovely article @TANYASIROHI featured in The India Times, January 2019.
Read full article here.
Ever since 45 became POTUS, politics have become an omnipresent undertone to many of the messages I receive on dating sites. This could turn into a very interesting social experiment: The more chaotic and polarizing our country becomes, so too do the messages I receive. This presidency is toxic, and it's toxicity is poisoning the veins of our country.
Fox 2 Morning News September 2019
Pechakucha Night Detroit (2017 & 2018)
Creative Entrepreneurship: The Art of the Hustle (Detroit Start-Up Week, 2017)
Fox 2 December 2016
Fox 2 February 2017
TV20 March 2017
It’s been an amazing experience participating in the largest internal erotic art exhibit here in Detroit for the past 3 years! Dirty Show XX was a huge success, displayed not only “Creme De Femme” but my UDP Project installation.
Lacuna 1: Inner Space (2018)
Lacuna 2: Primativa (2018)
Lacuna 3: In Bloom (2018)
Lacuna means “a blank space, gap or that which is missing/lacking”. This series of polymer clay sculptures explores how our culture devalues and dehumanizes women, reducing us to “dumb, wastes of space” for voicing our opinions, or following the path less traveled. Own your space.
(Lacuna 2) For those who condemn our right to choose how we govern our personal space, for those who perpetuate the reckless myth that abortion is an easy way out, or an alternate form of birth-control, or a mindless act of murder, and for those who propagate the miseducation of our youth by spreading the belief that a women’s body is not her own, hear us: This is space is ours. P.S. “Ilikepizza1” babies don’t grow in your stomach
(Lacuna 3) I wanted to create a piece that took up as much space (literally and figuratively) as possible. The vulva-roses are unapologetically in your face, reaching out from the canvas (hopefully making you feel a little uncomfortable), much like the messages which inspired them seemed to jump from my inbox and into my psyche, violating the boundaries of my personal space.
On top of being a single, childless women in her mid-30s, I'm Jewish too! Some guys just love weaving that fact into all their insults and (under-handed) compliments. Joy!
House of Theodora is a community of women who make, create and design for sexual expression. I was so thrilled to be a selected feature in their “Friday Fives” initiative, as well have my work included in their erotic art directory.
Full interview can be read here.
The UDP Project as well as Erotic Ice-Cream 2: Hung & Fun were on display at this year’s Seattle Erotic Art Festival. More info can be found here.
Cummm, Acrylic on Panel, 18x24, 2019
Feminists Act is an incredible resource which provide access to information about reproductive rights, political involvement and other social justice issues. I had the pleasure of speaking with them about Sareytales, art, and what feminism means to me.
There’s nothing I love more than a good collab. I approached Shannon (@badasscrossstitch) after vying over her collection of stitchings and art-as-activism gems for at least a year. I was shocked to even receive a response from them, let along to be greeted with such enthusiasm and support for my work. It was such an absolute privilege to work with Shannon, she is a creative visionary with a voice that won’t back down.
“Jesus, Guns & Rollerblading: This is America”
Collaboration with the original badass herself @badasscrossstitch, who’s conceptual cross-stitching vision gave life to my idea of creating art from this man’s dating app profile in true @Sareytales form. It was an absolute dream to work on this piece together, from Shannon’s inspired interpretation of “Jesus, Guns & Rollerblading”, to rendering the same words into different iconic American environments (The Lincoln Memorial, Department of Commerce Building and Statue of Liberty). It was empowering and gratifying working with such a force of badass-ness. Scroll to read the message that inspired the art. This guy is clearly ignorant to the incredible physical and emotional responsibility of pregnancy, as well the excruciating decision of whether or not to have an abortion. This ignorance manifests itself in our society every minute of every day. Jesus, Guns & Rollerblading, is this America?
DIYSF 2019 Recap:
✅ Scorching Temps
✅ Torrential Rain
✅ Blisters, Bruises & Blood
💜 So many new and returning friends, stories shared and connections made
💜 An amazing event with the most helpful staff
💜 Incredible support from friends and family near and far.
The @diystreetfair is my favorite art fair every year, and #DIYSF12 didn’t disappoint. As always, I am blown away by the dedicated staff, enthusiastic crowds and overall acceptance, support and encouragement to keep doing what I’m doing. Thank you for an incredible weekend 🖤🖤🖤#sareytales #theartofonlinedating#diysf #ferndale #feministart #detroit#onlinedating #artfair #detroitartists